"We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it."
John Lennon

What COUPLES say about Martha's Personal Coaching and Counseling

"I am not normally given to overreaction. And as a man, I can be too tightly bound within myself at times. This weekend helped me to relax, open up and get closer to my wife whom I really love."

Matt Morgan, Attorney

"I do not think that in the past 28 years of marriage, I have felt as honest and loving to my husband as I did in this weekend. We said things to each other that we had taken for granted. We acknowledged the love, the trust and the support that has ebbed and flowed for 28 years. We have laid the ground work for our journey together into the future."

Sarah Gaines, Real Estate Broker


  • Absolutely life changing. I cannot believe what I have accomplished as a result."
  • "The best experience I can ever remember having."
  • "Awesome. Brilliant!"
  • "The best thing we ever could have done for our marriage"
  • "A simple 'thank you' doesn't capture the sense of gratitude I feel."
  • "At first, I was really skeptical, but found it to be extremely worthwhile. I recommend it highly"
  • "Without a doubt, this SAVED our marriage!"



Couples Coaching is a “get-away-retreat” designed to assist couples to work, love, live and play together with greater ease, effectiveness and aliveness.   

The two day program includes significant interaction with Martha who will focus entirely on supporting you to integrate your individual wants and needs into your relationship successfully. Grounded in a solid win/win philosophy, Martha believes that if it isn’t working for one partner, then it isn’t working for either. In support of your growth together, you will be given an extensive intake form, some written work, a number of interactive processes and exercises, guided visualizations and open dialog that address your specific areas in need of attention. The end result opens fresh perspectives and new possibilities. It is practical learning that can be immediately transferred to your daily life and transform it.

  • Learn effective techniques of how to handle conflicts, arguments and other emotional issues
  • Deepen passion and intimacy through honest interaction and understanding
  • Build and deepen the trust between you
  • Learn powerful skills and techniques to improve communication
  • Experience confidence and trust with your partner as you reach a new level of understanding of yourself.
  • Share special moments of love and connection that reconnect you to each other.
  • Design your future based on mutual agreements and goals
  • Revitalize and enhance your relationship
  • Improve your communication so that you and your partner feel understood and appreciated
  • Understand and appreciate the differences between men and women
  • Establish a balance between intimacy and independence
  • Handle conflict positively
  • Have FUN!!

 Exercises and processes designed to:

  • Generate open, honest communication,
  • Create genuine happiness
  • Help you learn ways to give and receive unconditionally
  • Create connection through expressing genuine empathy
  • Feel and express compassion and appreciation for your partner
  • Show you how to be allies
  • Heal old wounds and resolve differences
  • Be honest and direct without hurt feelings
  • Broaden your understanding of intimacy
  • Improved problem solving skills
  • Have more romance
  • Eliminate dysfunctional behavior
  • Decrease emotional avoidance
  • Create a joyful, free and mutually respectful Future Together

Sessions are held at Martha Borst’s “Get-Away-Retreat”, her beautiful home in the wine country of Healdsburg, CA.

If you would like to learn more, contact us to discuss what may be possible for you

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The few days we spent with you [Martha] was the best investment we ever could have made for our relationship. Your insights into problems we had worked on for years were amazing! I wish we had known about you a long time ago. We especially liked the part about 'everyone's accountable and no one is to blame'. How simple and yet, we never understood that before. Everyone in the world should spend time with you. Thank you, thank you!!

Ceci and Charlie Freeman